I recently stopped dating this person, let's call him McW. He emailed me with, "Do you think we should still see each other?" and I replied, "No. I think we should just be friends" and citing my reasons. I know this is bad form, but he email me first.
It turned out to be a harder break than I anticipated; my reasons did not go over well with McW (his were different reasons) and he thought I was being unfair and resented the fact I used those reasons as the basis for my decision. After a heated exchange which included him bringing up old arguments, he decided that it would be okay for us to be friends.
Was I stupid to believe it was going to be that simple? As I tried to carry forward as friends, our conversations have been rittled with his sarcastic remarks (more insulting than teasing, referencing the reasons I used to stop dating).
He was a nice person when we were dating. But after these episodes, I realized how bitter he could be. Could it be that he was on his best behavior? Is he trying to make me feel guilty now for the breakup?
But the more important question I find myself asking now is, "Do I want a friendship with someone like that?" One thing I'm absolutely sure of now is that we would never have had a healthy relationship.