I am a Gemini. Which means I'm versatile. And I'm twice the fun. It also means my birthday is coming up! This year is extra special; along with being my quarter century mark, it will also be my first queerthday (try saying that three times fast)!
Along with this, I'm going to make this birthday different than all birthdays in the past. See, I've never had to lift a finger when it was my birthday. My family always decided how to celebrate. When I got too old for that, I left it up to my friends to decide. I thought, "That's what friends are for, right?" Read more [+/-]
They're not your personal party planner, that's for sure. (Unless they are a party planner and you get them to plan your party. Anyway...)
For the last few years, I expected my friends to plan my birthday celebrations. When they didn't, I took it as a sign they forgot or worse, they didn't care. I got mad at first; then, tired of being mad, I stopped expecting. When someone asked me what I was doing for my birthday I answered, "Nothing. It's not a big deal."
What a spoiled, self-absorbed, and self-loathing person I was.
People forget. Yes, even friends. I can remember a few times I had forgotten a friends' birthday; which would normally be followed by a belated birthday call. If I don't remind them, how the hell are they supposed to remember? They have lives for goodness sake! Well, most of them anyway.
This year, it's going to be different. I'm going to plan my own birthday celebration events (and if you want to help, that'd be nice of you). With all that's happening in my life, I think this is a good opportunity for me to stop feeling sorry for myself and make things happen. My birthday is special to me, and that's what counts.
This year, I'm in charge. And I'm going to stop expecting people to be psychic; and I'm going to forgive them if they forget that my birthday is June 4.
With that said, anyone have any suggestions on what I should do?