Thursday, February 24, 2005

The Deal Breaker

Deal breakers: triggers that tell you that a date (or a relationship) has gone bad and you realize that there is no point in investing any more time or energy in it.

For many people, it's the kiss.  I've heard that kissing can be a hint as to how they'll perform, shall we say, 'in the future' (if they ever get that far).  However, I think it's like playing an sport; with some coaching and practice, you can get better at it.

Smoking would normally be a deal breaker for me.  But, with the general consensus that it's a bad habit, I can see myself being the influence that helps them stop.

My biggest deal breaker is the laugh.  I love to laugh, and I love to make other people laugh too.  But if he has a laugh I can't stand (i.e. the dorky he-yuk or it sounds like he's hyperventilating), then my relationship monitor just flat-lined.  I mean, laughing is something you do naturally and someone can't just change it unless they consciously make an attempt to do so - every time; but then it sounds fake and contrived.

Even if the physical stuff is amazing, a lasting relationship can't be solely based on it; we'd have to talk sometime.  And if I can't crack a joke without bracing myself for the impending aural pain, then that's the deal breaker for me.

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4 comments:

Anonymous said...

aahaha that picture cracks me up.
if no one knew you, you'd really look like a super duper programmer geek there.

-ma

GrooveTheory said...

Deal Breaker ... hmmmm ... it varies for me. I guess if he can't retain his attention to me when I'm speaking, then that's it. Or if he can't laugh, because just like you, I like to laugh a lot. I don't know.

I heard from Wayne that you can do a belly dance. So by looking at your picture, I'm trying to picture you dancing with the shirt on :) ROFL

Deviant said...

YOU'VE BEEN WATCHING SEX IN THE CITY! I liked the deal-breaking episode.

A big deal breaker is when boys don't call back, man, that's when I say g'bye. Also when they just use me for sex :(

:-p

Dantallion said...

For me it,s the ability to talk openly and honestly. Yes, I know, I sound like Kathy-Lee Gifford. But it's true.